Ep 93. How to Have a Peaceful & Profitable Business Doing the Bare Minimum as a Mompreneur w/Kay Hillman
In this episode of The Mom CEO Suite Podcast, Kay Hillman (CEO & Sales Coach) shares her strategies for achieving a peaceful and profitable business with minimal effort, focusing on mindset shifts in selling, relationship building, and leveraging the "bare minimum" business model for mompreneurs.
About Kay
Kay is a CEO & Sales Coach and the CEO of Moms Do Business Different, which is a community that focuses on supporting moms in navigating the rhythm of motherhood and building a thriving company. It's a safe space for moms to navigate the seasons of motherhood, mom fog, and joy so that they can find peace and profit with their journey while doing the bare minimum.
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Transcript
If you take a day off, a week off, even a month off, like I
Speaker:took a whole year off. It's not going to make or break you. Like it's
Speaker:not going to make or break you. You are still going to be able to
Speaker:come back. And the most important thing is that you come back your best
Speaker:self. And if that means you need to take a step, you need to be
Speaker:sick for the week. You need to just get your mental health together for a
Speaker:month or two, do that. Like it's, it's more important for you to take care
Speaker:of yourself and your family, which of course is probably your number one priority. And
Speaker:then to try to force things with the business, because it's just going to lead
Speaker:to more stress and it's not necessary. So you're in a season, you will make
Speaker:it through and just give yourself some grace. You are now
Speaker:tuned in to the mom CEO suite podcast. I'm
Speaker:your host, Felicia, wife, mom, and entrepreneur.
Speaker:In this podcast, I'll be sharing my mompreneur journey along with
Speaker:strategies that will help you build your online business operations
Speaker:in a sustainable way. The goal is to help you build a business that
Speaker:fits into your lifestyle as a mom who values putting family
Speaker:first. We will also hear the experiences and expertise
Speaker:of other moms with service based businesses. You'll get a peek into
Speaker:our journeys, so you'll know that you aren't alone. Motherhood
Speaker:gets hard. Entrepreneurship gets hard. But together,
Speaker:we can do hard things. Welcome to
Speaker:the suite.
Speaker:All right. Hey friends, welcome to another episode. Thank you so much for
Speaker:being here. So I don't always say I'm super excited about these episodes, but I
Speaker:really be excited. But today we have Ms. Kay Hillman
Speaker:and I just love her energy. I'm also a part of her membership, which she's
Speaker:going to tell you guys about a little bit later. But Kay, she
Speaker:is a CEO and CEO. Sales Coach and the CEO
Speaker:of Moms Do Business Different, which is a community that
Speaker:focuses on supporting moms and navigating the rhythm of motherhood
Speaker:and building a thriving company. It's a safe space for moms
Speaker:to navigate the seasons of motherhood, mom fog,
Speaker:and joy so that they can find peace and profit with their journey
Speaker:while doing the bare minimum. I love
Speaker:it. Hey, Kay. How are you? Welcome to the suite. Hey boo.
Speaker:Hey, I'm so excited to be here.
Speaker:That is so funny, like, I literally hear that in my head, like, when we're
Speaker:in select and you're talking, like, I hear your voice saying that, it's so funny.
Speaker:Hilarious. So natural me. But I'm so glad we
Speaker:finally got you to come on to the podcast. So tell us
Speaker:a little bit more about you, who is Kay and just tell us more about
Speaker:your business. Yes. Yes. Yes. My name is Kay Hillman. I'm a
Speaker:believer. I love reading the Bible and talking about Jesus. Literally any chance I can
Speaker:get. Um, I am a wife. I've been married for seven
Speaker:years now and I'm a mom of two toddlers. I think. It's four years
Speaker:old, still a toddler. I don't know, but I'm a mom of two, two boys.
Speaker:Um, I founded two companies, Moms Who Business Different, like you said earlier. It's
Speaker:a sales and business like strategy consulting business. And then I
Speaker:also have a photography business, K Hillman Photography, and it used to be a
Speaker:brand photography studio. And now we've merged into being a family and
Speaker:maternity photography studio. So that's been really fun. That's a new thing this
Speaker:season of life. Um, I started these businesses.
Speaker:Really after I just could not get a job after going to med school, I
Speaker:did drop out of med school. So I wasn't expecting to become a doctor or
Speaker:anything like get a, a doctor role, but you know, I did
Speaker:try to get a job. Um, I went and got my master's and, uh, even
Speaker:after that, I still could not get a job. And so I applied to like
Speaker:local charter schools. This is right after I got married. And so, um, I, I
Speaker:couldn't get hired anywhere. So I started driving for Uber. I started driving for Instacart
Speaker:and I did that for a good minute. Like I did it for a really
Speaker:good minute. Yeah. And during that season, I ended up just picking up a
Speaker:camera as a kid. I always was kind of interested in like photography and
Speaker:creativity, but, you know, in, in my household, uh, my
Speaker:biological mother is Haitian. So like growing up in that way, they're like, you're
Speaker:going to be a doctor, a lawyer, like something, you know, prominent. So that's kind
Speaker:of like the energy that I grew up with, but. As an adult, I was
Speaker:like, you know what? Let me just try something new. Nobody's giving me a job
Speaker:anyway. So why not try something? So that's when I picked up a camera and
Speaker:it was a wrap, honey. Um, it's so crazy that my parents wanted me to
Speaker:like be a doctor or something because literally they are entrepreneurs
Speaker:too. So it would make sense that I would follow in that footstep since I
Speaker:was raised that way, but whatever. We just let parents do what they do. So
Speaker:From that point, I started like building my businesses on social media. Like I
Speaker:was posting about this is back before we really had like the algorithm that
Speaker:anybody really cared about for real, for real. So I was like
Speaker:getting clients on social media and a lot of people local to me were asking
Speaker:like, how are we getting clients? Especially as a photographer, people just were so curious
Speaker:about how do you get clients on social media? And I will say like back
Speaker:then it was just completely, it was a whole different era. Okay. So
Speaker:it was different, but I started teaching like classes and workshops and it literally just
Speaker:spiraled into. I, when I first
Speaker:started this, like it was called, she's a creative and I was really looking for
Speaker:community in the local area since I was new to Atlanta. And when I think
Speaker:back, there's just no way I could have known or planned that
Speaker:what I have today. Like, it's, it's truly surreal. It's
Speaker:definitely like a God moment. Like, whoa, you really, like, really brought
Speaker:me from the trenches. And now look at where we are. So, yeah. It's been
Speaker:really exciting. I definitely have had like some low moments like even in
Speaker:saying all this Most of this stuff happened as I was having my oldest
Speaker:child Um and my first child like that was just a whole doozy.
Speaker:Like it was a rough pregnancy everything was just really really
Speaker:crazy and actually like the hour after I gave birth
Speaker:a client cussed me out like literally called me on the phone and cussed me
Speaker:clean out I mean i've never been called so many b words in my life
Speaker:Not posting content and creating something for them. It was a hot mess express
Speaker:and I quit my business after that. And I knew that like after
Speaker:that experience, I was like, you know what? If I come back to this,
Speaker:I have to figure out how to do business in a way that is peaceful.
Speaker:Like you, you are not going to stress a girl out. Okay, it has to
Speaker:be profitable and it has to be bare minimum. Like I just I want to
Speaker:do the bare minimum because now my mom like there's just way more responsibility with
Speaker:more things on my plate. Okay. I'm not going to let these people stress me
Speaker:and I'm not going to be broke either. You know, like it's just not happening.
Speaker:That's not cute. And that's what I did. I honed my sales skills. I've always
Speaker:been really good at sales. And so I really like honed those skills a lot
Speaker:better. And then I kind of leveraged, and this is something that I talk about
Speaker:a lot, like leverage your previous skills. I had a lot of skills working with
Speaker:like multiple six figure companies, seven figure companies and helping them with their business
Speaker:operations and with their like. business like systems. And so I was like,
Speaker:okay, I'm going to create something sustainable off the back of this. And now literally
Speaker:every year I serve like hundreds of clients. It's, it's almost crazy sometimes when I
Speaker:think about it, like, yo, there's like hundreds of people on the list for this
Speaker:year. And that's just crazy. Like, it's just crazy to me. And I have a
Speaker:very small team. I don't work more than 20 hours a week. If I work
Speaker:more than 20 hours a week, it's like, whoa, like, what are you doing this
Speaker:week? Um, I must be doing something extra, but like, I really be I
Speaker:just be chilling. I'd be vibing. And it's just, it's so cool. And I love
Speaker:helping other moms do the same. So that's me in a nutshell. Oh my
Speaker:goodness. That was so good. I love hearing people's journey because.
Speaker:You know, I think, and especially in the online space, everything feels so curated
Speaker:and everyone talks about success, but we don't really see
Speaker:the journey that people took to get to where they are. So I love hearing
Speaker:how it was like, it wasn't like, Oh, you just started a business and it
Speaker:was ultra successful from the beginning. It was like, okay, this started because I couldn't
Speaker:get a job. I was doing Uber and God kind of just led you to
Speaker:where you are. So you talked about You only work like 20
Speaker:hours a week, right? And you talk about doing the bare minimum. So can you
Speaker:talk a little bit more about what that means and how is it
Speaker:that you're able to have a profitable business and only work those
Speaker:20 hours per week? Yes, girl. That's my favorite thing to talk about,
Speaker:honey. I love bare. Oh, bare minimum is like the thing. And I know
Speaker:it's like some people, like in some contexts, I can see why people feel like
Speaker:bare minimum is a bad thing, but baby, it is not a bad thing over
Speaker:here. Okay. At all. Bare minimum is simple. Like,
Speaker:The whole concept behind this, it's called, um, I call it a bare minimum business
Speaker:model. And so essentially you're creating a business model that
Speaker:is super simple and it prioritizes high impact
Speaker:activities. I call them income producing activities. So, you prioritize like
Speaker:those activities and then you prioritize delegating and automation. So
Speaker:basically you are figuring out how can I simplify this business? How can I
Speaker:streamline the business and how can I do the least to get the
Speaker:maximum results. So like when you look up bare minimum in the dictionary, it actually
Speaker:says like something about something to the degree of like, the smallest
Speaker:amount of effort in order to get a desired result. That's all this is right.
Speaker:You're creating a business that requires the smallest amount of effort for you
Speaker:in order to get a maximum result. So if your result that you want is
Speaker:10, 000, figure out what is the smallest thing, like what's the least that you
Speaker:can do in order to make that money. And it doesn't mean that we're lazy.
Speaker:It doesn't mean that we're Not serving our clients well, like my, my clients
Speaker:are a vibe. Okay. We have a lot of fun and we make a lot
Speaker:of money. Right. But we're not doing all the things because. Priority number
Speaker:one as moms are our children, right? Like we want to spend time with our
Speaker:children. We want to be present with our kids. We want to be able to
Speaker:do and get them whatever we want, you know, and then also for ourselves, like
Speaker:I, I want to have nice things. I like nice things. I like enjoying my
Speaker:life, you know? And so because of that, creating a bare minimum business model,
Speaker:it, for me, it goes beyond being sustainable and it goes to like, You're laser
Speaker:focused on what it is that you're called to do in this season. And how
Speaker:can you do it with excellence without burning yourself out or running yourself into the
Speaker:ground? And so like, just recently, um, I had a client
Speaker:who like, she was doing like three to talks a day, which is insane
Speaker:to me. I can't even imagine. I know that that's the strategy they teach over
Speaker:there, but baby, it's giving hard pass. Okay. She was
Speaker:doing like three to talks a day and it was like just draining her. It
Speaker:was like taking her out. And so We reverse engineered. We figured out, okay, how
Speaker:can we simplify this? And that's my biggest question. Whenever I'm like helping someone with
Speaker:this is like, how can we simplify what you're doing? And so we figured out,
Speaker:okay, here's the most, high converting content, right? And then we're
Speaker:like, okay, now let's just pull back, right? We're going to pull back. She posts
Speaker:now, I think like three to four times a week, and we've just hyper focused
Speaker:on it. Things like DM selling, right? Like how she's actually converting, moving people through
Speaker:the customer journey, and when you get clear on that, when you like have an
Speaker:actual strategy, you're not just throwing out content because everybody says you should post,
Speaker:you know, this many times you'll actually see results. And so last month, like she
Speaker:just messaged us inside the Slack channel. And she's like, you know, last month we
Speaker:had an 8k month and she hasn't made that much in a long time of
Speaker:posting three times a day. Like that is insane. But that is
Speaker:also bare minimum. So bare minimum is Essentially streamlining so
Speaker:that you can focus on what's most important and things that actually move the needle
Speaker:without stressing yourself out. Very, very easy Yes. Yes.
Speaker:No, I love it. And I remember I started listening to your podcast and
Speaker:you were talking about bare minimum. I'm like, Ooh, what is this? Cause you know,
Speaker:as moms, it's like, you said, we're already busy. The kid's all over the
Speaker:place. The girl. don't need to be doing a whole bunch of things. Like if
Speaker:I can do least and still get the work done and it'd
Speaker:be efficient, then let's do it. So I absolutely love that. I'm glad
Speaker:you mentioned that, example of your client who, you
Speaker:know, she wasn't posting three times a day to get
Speaker:the sales. Like I think again, because
Speaker:we're online or social media, we think we have to be on there all day,
Speaker:every day to make things happen. And. That's not necessarily
Speaker:the case. So I'm glad you mentioned that. Um, now let's talk about sales
Speaker:cause you're a sales coach. That's your thing. And you know, we
Speaker:just in the money mama membership, we just did that. the
Speaker:sales challenge, which was super helpful for me. So, let's talk about
Speaker:sales. What are the major like
Speaker:roadblocks you see when it comes to selling
Speaker:specifically for like women and moms in business?
Speaker:So, okay. This is actually a really good question. And
Speaker:I feel like the roadblocks usually fall in like two
Speaker:categories. It's either your priorities, like your priorities
Speaker:aren't aligned, or like, you're not focused on the right things, or it's your
Speaker:mindset. It's usually one of those two things that like ends up being the problem
Speaker:because I feel like a lot of us moms, depending on where you are in
Speaker:your business, you got the strategy, right? Like my client, the three
Speaker:times a day posting. It wasn't a bad strategy. It just didn't work for her.
Speaker:Right? So it's not necessarily that the, we, we are missing the strategy
Speaker:or we don't, you know, we don't. It's a lot of times we don't know
Speaker:how to prioritize what's actually the most important thing or our
Speaker:mindset is just like we're having a lot of mind drama and I love to
Speaker:say mind drama because that's what it is. Like, sometimes we just make things up
Speaker:in our mind or we kind of hike something up and it's like, either it's
Speaker:not that deep or, you know, we're kind of like, uh, Jumping so far to
Speaker:a conclusion that it's unnecessary. So I feel like the,
Speaker:well, I'll talk about like the two mindset shifts that I tend to give people
Speaker:a lot. And I have to talk to people a lot. So the number one
Speaker:mindset shift is selling is the bare minimum, right? Like I love
Speaker:bare minimum. So I'm always going to say this, but like selling is the bare
Speaker:minimum, like selling. is the priority. So when you're thinking about what are your priorities
Speaker:besides serving your clients, right? Like I never want to like selling doesn't come before
Speaker:serving clients in my book, but besides, um, you know, serving your clients,
Speaker:selling is the bare minimum. Selling is the priority and that's because
Speaker:without selling, you won't have sales, which means you won't have clients.
Speaker:So it's just, it's a, it's a downward spiral from there. And I feel like
Speaker:sometimes a lot of people We'll focus on, you know, I have to
Speaker:create content or I have to do this. I have to do that a third.
Speaker:And it's like, no, you don't, you just need to go and sell your offer.
Speaker:And there are so many ways that you can do it. Like, I mean, we
Speaker:could talk about that for days, but honestly, it doesn't have to. And this kind
Speaker:of leads me to my second shift. It's like selling and making money can be
Speaker:simple. Like we don't need like complicated funnels. Like I know a lot of people
Speaker:like to jump to like a funnel or someone said, I need a lead magnet
Speaker:and then the lead night and needs to have a upsell and I have to
Speaker:do this and I have to do that. No girl, you don't have to do
Speaker:all that. Like making money and selling can be super simple. It can be as
Speaker:simple as posting your Instagram stories that you have an offer, right. Or
Speaker:posting that, you know, posting a review, right. Posting something that you did for someone
Speaker:or posting like that. You're currently working on a project. I just recently, actually a
Speaker:couple of days ago, I posted that I was working on something and someone asked
Speaker:for that service and I signed the client. Like. And that was an Instagram
Speaker:stories. And it's an offer that is a secret offer. Like I don't sell it
Speaker:publicly or anything, but I was sharing just what I was doing in the moment.
Speaker:And someone was interested in the offer. And if you have that shift, like, and
Speaker:that's a mindset shift, that making money and selling can be simple. If you have
Speaker:that shift, you start to see more opportunities around you to actually make money, like
Speaker:to talk about your offers so that you can make money. And so I
Speaker:find that we fall in those two camps of like, Either your priorities are wrong
Speaker:or you're focusing on creating a website. Not that these things are important, right? Websites
Speaker:are important. Sales pages, like all those things, funnels are even important, right? But there's
Speaker:a time and a place, like if you're not making money or if your sales
Speaker:are slowing up, then you need to sell, right? Like that's, I feel like we
Speaker:need to like make this a just common, like known thought
Speaker:that if you don't have sales or if you don't have clients, you need to
Speaker:sell. Making, making a website, creating a funnel, those things
Speaker:can help long term, but in the moment when you don't have a client, that's
Speaker:not really adding the most value where you need to focus is making sales. You
Speaker:can slap together a dubsado form for them to pay you. You can make a
Speaker:checkout form and thrive car or Sam car or something so that they can actually
Speaker:pay you. But in order for them to get to that point, you have to
Speaker:have sold to them in the first place. And so I feel like those are
Speaker:like the two biggest roadblocks is like either your priorities are off and you're not
Speaker:focused on selling, which should be like, Selling should be just like the bare, like,
Speaker:if you don't do anything else, you should sell your offer. And then the other
Speaker:end, just changing your thoughts around what selling requires and
Speaker:that making money can be super simple. Those are, I feel like are like the
Speaker:two biggest roadblocks I've seen. Yeah, that's really good. And I know
Speaker:I've, I've dealt with that as well. Like I've, I've
Speaker:been that person who is like, Oh, let me get the website first. Let me
Speaker:get my whole funnel set up just because the way my brain is, you know,
Speaker:I'm a systems girl and I want to have all the things set up. But
Speaker:like you said, Selling is the bare minimum and that shift really
Speaker:needs to happen so you can get to that profitability. So
Speaker:you mentioned this mindset shift. I
Speaker:think people, like you said, overcomplicate what it takes to sell,
Speaker:right? So if they're not doing the website, can you give like some tangible examples?
Speaker:If they're not doing the website, if they're not creating the funnels, like,
Speaker:What are just some simple, basic ways that people can actually be selling? And I
Speaker:think it's going to be things that they're probably already doing that they don't
Speaker:know it's selling. So like, what are some actual selling
Speaker:activities? Yes. Okay. So this is a really good question. And I
Speaker:think I want to take a half a step back and preface this by like,
Speaker:These things take time. So like you said, a lot of times we're already doing
Speaker:these things, but when we don't see the result of it quickly, we get
Speaker:discouraged or we feel like, you know, this is not working. Um, but
Speaker:I want to, I want to first set the tone by saying like, what you're
Speaker:doing probably is working. You just haven't given it enough time. So with
Speaker:sales, with selling, it doesn't happen overnight. So if you can commit
Speaker:to the things that I'm about to say, if you can commit to those for
Speaker:like, you know, I would say at least. Like give it 45 days
Speaker:to 60 days. You'll start to see a conversion somewhere. Right. But
Speaker:then also don't be as discouraged if it doesn't happen in the 60 days, right?
Speaker:Sometimes offer awareness takes a little bit of time. And sometimes if your offer is
Speaker:like super high ticket or super premium, it might take some time for someone to
Speaker:actually convert, but it doesn't mean that your efforts aren't working, but to
Speaker:answer your question, the number one thing I'm always saying is sell daily. Now
Speaker:I know I feel like I've broken record almost with this, but. The thing is,
Speaker:like you said, we just did a challenge and inside the challenge. One thing that
Speaker:I noticed is that by selling every single day and not
Speaker:overthinking it, and what I mean by this is literally posting your
Speaker:stories or post on threads, right? Threads is a really pop in place that I
Speaker:think people are underestimating in terms of your ability to connect with
Speaker:people, generate leads, and then. Ultimately convert someone the
Speaker:more consistent that you can be over there though, the better. So if you are
Speaker:a more written person, like if you write better than you talk, or if you
Speaker:write content, like I have a client right now who she's an excellent writer. Like
Speaker:she's a little shy when it comes to like speaking or on video, but baby,
Speaker:let her write something. Maybe she will write you under the table. And I'm like,
Speaker:Okay. So we need to like leverage the strategy, right? That writing for you
Speaker:is bare minimum. And so when it comes to selling though, and selling every
Speaker:day, you have to find like, what is your strength and then go lean on
Speaker:that so you can sell by posting about your offer on threads. You can talk
Speaker:about a client experience, right? Like I think sometimes we overcomplicate what's
Speaker:required in order to sell or what you need to sell. say, and it's not
Speaker:that at all, right? A lot of times people connect with one random thing
Speaker:you say, and from there they're ready to buy from you, right? Like
Speaker:there are a lot of people who literally connect with me saying bare minimum, and
Speaker:they're like, okay, take my money. And I'm like, great. And then there are other
Speaker:people that, like, love when I say, take my money and they buy for me
Speaker:from, like, And that was me not overcomplicating. That was me being myself. That was
Speaker:me talking about my offers. And when I say talk about your offers, I literally
Speaker:mean just talk about, like, literally just say this offer does
Speaker:this, right? If you are this type of person, you would be a great fit
Speaker:for my offer. Like you could say something that basic and I promise you the
Speaker:girls will come from the woodworks. Okay. They will come from, because people want
Speaker:clarity. Right. And this kind of leads to my, my second point of like,
Speaker:clarify or like really clean up your messaging, right? The cleaner your messaging
Speaker:is, the more you can articulate what it is that you are providing, like
Speaker:the transformation or maybe the tangible details, the better you are at
Speaker:that, the more likely you are going to connect with the right people. Um, and
Speaker:something that I like to do is tell stories, right? So tell stories about. Your
Speaker:clients or your experience or talk people through what it could look like
Speaker:for them. Because when you tell a story, it really like grabs people and they're
Speaker:like, Oh, I can see myself there. Like this sounds like a vibe, right? Or
Speaker:this sounds like something for me. It doesn't have to be a vibe. I like
Speaker:vibes, but it could just be regular, right? Like it's just be, this is what
Speaker:you need point blank period, right? It doesn't have to be that, that deep. But
Speaker:I think that those two things, like. Are super like they go hand in hand
Speaker:and they're so crucial, but I really want to like emphasize like sell daily because
Speaker:like inside that challenge that we just did, like, I don't know if you saw,
Speaker:but like, there were several people in there that were like, Oh, I did this
Speaker:and I got a sale today. And then there was another girl, like, at the
Speaker:end of the challenge who literally Go Like the last week, every
Speaker:day, she was like, I got two sales. I got three sales. I got two
Speaker:sales. I got, and I'm like, dang girl, like, hold up. Like, you know, I
Speaker:mean, obviously I don't want to slow down, but like, woo. Okay. Like we're here
Speaker:we are. And that's the power of selling daily. And literally
Speaker:it was just her going into her groups, going into telegram, going into,
Speaker:um, What is it that look, it's like a Facebook thing. Oh, WhatsApp.
Speaker:Um, so she uses WhatsApp. Like she would just go in these different places on
Speaker:threads and she would just go and say, Hey, this is my offer. This is
Speaker:what it does, right? Selling can be that simple. Going back to like the
Speaker:mindset shift, like selling can be that simple. We don't need to like have this
Speaker:long drawn out process. It could just be literally you talking about and you
Speaker:showing your offer and you telling stories about your offer. And I'll say the
Speaker:last thing, like the last tip is to
Speaker:prioritize. Relationships and this is the one that takes some
Speaker:time, right? This is the one that takes some time This is the one that
Speaker:everybody hates to do even I mean Especially as moms because we're so limited on
Speaker:time and then you know our emotional capacity can get taxed on this,
Speaker:right? But it's worth it because you get the highest
Speaker:quality clients ever when you have the relationship with them But
Speaker:there is something so valuable about being very strategic about
Speaker:Um, engaging with people, like having conversations, seeing people's,
Speaker:um, stories, responding to your comments, responding to dms. Like when
Speaker:you build that relationship with someone, when the time comes and you sell your
Speaker:offer or when you're consistently talking about your offer, all they're doing in the back
Speaker:of their mind is thinking about how can they logistically make it work, right?
Speaker:How can I give her my money? Because you've built that relationship. It's kind of
Speaker:like having a friend like They, they, people build these relationships and they feel
Speaker:like you're their friend. You're their person. You're someone they can trust. And I feel
Speaker:like without this component, sometimes like. It becomes a little challenging to
Speaker:sell because if you don't have those relationships, then you don't
Speaker:really have as much to kind of, um, lean on, or maybe like root back
Speaker:into like, you, you kind of feel like you're screaming out into a void. So
Speaker:by, um, doing this relationship building piece, I feel like this
Speaker:is what I call this part of the lead generation. And by doing this,
Speaker:you will be able to see like a running list, like. These are the
Speaker:people that I have connected with and you'll also see where there are opportunities
Speaker:for you to serve and that is like really good because whenever you're feeling kind
Speaker:of stuck, what one thing I love to do is like, I have this list
Speaker:of people that I know I've been talking to and engaging with and I'll just
Speaker:go through, you know, once every week or once every other week and I'll just
Speaker:check in and be like, you know, how are you doing? I remember you said
Speaker:that you had this problem. Actually, I'm doing a workshop on this or I'm doing
Speaker:this or my program is about to open. Would you be interested? Right? And it
Speaker:can. And now we have an open door to have a conversation, a
Speaker:sales conversation, right? I'm selling to them. And again, this does take a little
Speaker:bit of time, but relationship building I have found
Speaker:has, um, Has yielded a lot of money to a lot of my
Speaker:clients by really focusing in on here. So I'll say that that is like the
Speaker:last, well, I don't want to say last. I feel like that should probably be
Speaker:the first piece. Um, followed by selling daily and then cleaning up your messaging. All
Speaker:of those things will kind of happen together, but those would be like my three
Speaker:main things. Yes, I love that. And I love that you keep it simple.
Speaker:And you know, when you were talking, you said be yourself when you're selling. Right.
Speaker:I think. I think there's this misconception that we have to have these cell scripts
Speaker:and there's like a certain way that we have to do it. And that's just
Speaker:not necessarily the case. Like, you make cells being yourself. and
Speaker:so all of the things you kind of talked about, you focus on in your
Speaker:membership. So, Yes. do you want to tell us a little bit more about it?
Speaker:Sure, sure. And actually like just to go off your last
Speaker:point right there. Yes, like that is so key. And it's one
Speaker:of the reasons why I mean, I will create a sales script, but more so
Speaker:I create like a sales outline for people to follow because as you can see,
Speaker:I say things like vibe and hey boo. Hey, and it's like, That
Speaker:doesn't translate for everybody or everybody's audience. So I feel like that's why it's super
Speaker:important to not always like lean on a, a sales
Speaker:script that somebody else gives you, but you can create one for yourself. And so
Speaker:like, I always recommend people to create like their own kind of like how you
Speaker:have your SLPs and stuff. It's like, you almost do the same thing, but for
Speaker:your sales style, because eventually you might get to a point where you have. So
Speaker:many clients coming in and you want more and you're like, Hey, I want to
Speaker:hire somebody else to do it. And now they can speak your language and it
Speaker:can just stay like super on brand for you. So I love that you made
Speaker:that point though, because it is like important. We don't have to sell like anybody
Speaker:else does. You like, there's so many ways to do it. It's ridiculous. And just
Speaker:like really be yourself. But in terms of Shmoney Mama, I am, this is like
Speaker:my baby. I just love this program so much. It is a,
Speaker:membership. It's a lifetime access membership. And essentially inside what
Speaker:we are focused on is sales. We're focused on doubling your lead generation and
Speaker:then consistently making sales by doing very strategic
Speaker:actions. So I have things like action plans. And so inside of those, it's really
Speaker:focused around giving you the content and the language. So this is the messaging piece,
Speaker:helping you clean up your messaging and really keep your messaging super clear. Um,
Speaker:and what I really love about that is that everything is plug and play. So
Speaker:like literally the captions are plug and play what you put on your reels.
Speaker:It's like plug and play. I even put emails there. So you can like literally
Speaker:just copy and paste the email and just fill in the blanks. And it's just,
Speaker:it's perfect. Like it really saves us moms so much time. And to be honest,
Speaker:like, fun fact, I'm a template girlie. Like I love templates. It just makes
Speaker:my life so much easier. And I feel like, why should we reinvent the wheel?
Speaker:If there are things that work, Just use it. Like we don't have to overthink
Speaker:again, bare minimum. We do not need to be overthinking this stuff. Like
Speaker:it is possible for these things to work. So I have these templates in there
Speaker:and that's one piece of it. And then the other piece is just like our
Speaker:curriculum, which everything is rooted back into the customer journey
Speaker:and the like buyer psychology. And so what I try to do is create. Create
Speaker:trainings that will allow you to go deeper in things like your client
Speaker:messaging or like your core messaging, like your, um, your strategy for how
Speaker:you're selling in the DMs, things like that. So things that I feel like you're
Speaker:going to need in order to get to the next stage of the customer journey,
Speaker:I have created curriculum around that. So that is pretty much it in a nutshell.
Speaker:It's a one time membership fee, or you can pay over 12 months, the one
Speaker:time fee, and then once you're in, you are a money mama for life gang,
Speaker:gang. Yes, y'all. And it's so good. Like the trainings are so
Speaker:good. I finally just now, like, I know I talked about this a couple of
Speaker:months ago, but I just started filling up my leads list
Speaker:last night. And so I'm like, okay, we about to, we about to get it
Speaker:popping now. Um, but y'all get in the membership.
Speaker:Get those relationships going girl and make that shmoney. Yes. I'm excited.
Speaker:Um, so. I want to,
Speaker:well, I don't want to shift yet, but for the mom who's
Speaker:listening, who might not have the sales rolling in. Right. I know you
Speaker:mentioned, um, you posted something in your story
Speaker:and somebody responded to it and you made a sale. Right. So for the
Speaker:mom, who's, community is not as engaged yet.
Speaker:Have you ever been in that space in your business? And like, what did that
Speaker:look like for you? And how did you kind of transition to get to the
Speaker:space where you are now where people are like, Responding to
Speaker:your selling. Yes. This is such a good question because I
Speaker:experienced this when I went from running my business from my personal
Speaker:brand page to like back to the business
Speaker:brand page and I experienced a period where nobody
Speaker:was engaging with anything like they, you know, story views were like
Speaker:three likes was like not even one like, you know,
Speaker:like it was just. It was a little bit insane. Um, but one
Speaker:thing that I will say is that if you don't have an engaged community, the
Speaker:only way to fix it is by creating content or,
Speaker:and I just say creating content, but like you have to be engaging first. So
Speaker:there's two options for this. You can create content yourself, or you can do what
Speaker:I just said in the last section. Um, and then the last, the last thing
Speaker:about relationship building, you can just focus on engaging with other
Speaker:people so that they, so that when you do post, they come back and see
Speaker:your stuff. Um, and both of those things were, is what I did.
Speaker:So it was, it was, it sucked. I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker:It really did suck. It sucked very bad.
Speaker:Um, but like for about, I want to say maybe two or three ish
Speaker:months, I was creating content and not a ton of content. And like, let's be
Speaker:for real, like your girl is quick to ghost Instagram. So maybe on Instagram I
Speaker:was posting like maybe twice. three times a week. Um, and then
Speaker:I was pretty consistent and I have stayed consistent with my email
Speaker:and I've stayed pretty consistent with my podcast. So I will say that because I
Speaker:had those two things, it really made stuff easier. But like my podcast, I go
Speaker:sit at for a year and it took about Um, I want to say eight
Speaker:months before I was able to convert somebody from the podcast. So like, this is
Speaker:just me. I, you know, I always had to be honest and just tell you
Speaker:like what the game is on my podcast. Like I almost gave
Speaker:up because I was like, there is no, like before I was getting clients through
Speaker:the podcast, then I took that year off. And when I came back, it was
Speaker:like, Where are the girls at? Like I was just, I was at my
Speaker:wits end. And then around the eighth month, literally the month I was getting ready
Speaker:to quit, that's when somebody converted from the podcast. And the only reason why I
Speaker:knew was because they bought an offer that I only sell on the podcast. So
Speaker:I was able to clearly see like, okay, they had to come from here. Um,
Speaker:but you know, that took some time. So I, I'm saying all this to say
Speaker:like. In anything, when it comes to business or life, like
Speaker:a lot of times things happen in seasons and in order to kind of get
Speaker:to build the momentum, you have to start, right? Like you have to start that
Speaker:posting at the start, that being consistent, or you have to do the work of
Speaker:building relationships. And so it is, it is hard. Like I'm not going,
Speaker:I'm not going to sit here and sugarcoat it. It is hard. It is challenging,
Speaker:but this is where the mindset shift comes in of like. But it's
Speaker:worth it, right? So if this is what you want to do, you just have
Speaker:to commit to getting to the end result that you're
Speaker:looking for. And if that means it takes a little bit longer, it takes a
Speaker:little bit longer. Um, I also will say like when it comes to
Speaker:a less engaged audience, something else that works. And I've seen this work with
Speaker:myself and with my clients is flooding
Speaker:the, the whatever space you're in with content. So if that's
Speaker:Instagram flood, Instagram with like a 10. Really put out as much content as you
Speaker:possibly can with the podcast, like coincidentally, the month that I said I was going
Speaker:to quit, I started doing like two or three podcasts episodes a week. And so
Speaker:because of that, and again, I don't recommend this to everybody and I don't recommend
Speaker:you do this long term, but if it's something that you can do as like
Speaker:a last ditch effort, just try it and see what happens because you never know,
Speaker:like, there might be a piece of content that picks up and. In that month,
Speaker:a piece of content picked up and that's what like pushed it to where I
Speaker:got a, I got a client from there. And then, and then you feel better,
Speaker:right? You can celebrate and be like, okay, I can keep doing this because it
Speaker:wasn't that bad. And now I only do one episode a week. So it's not
Speaker:like I still do three episodes a week. I did not keep that up long.
Speaker:It was probably for about maybe 60 days where I did that. So you can
Speaker:also think about it in terms of like doing the sprint. I like to think
Speaker:of like some, some marketing. Task is like a sprint. And so maybe you decide
Speaker:like, okay, I'm gonna do a ton of content in like a short sprint of
Speaker:time, and then go back to your normal cadence. And I think that will be
Speaker:really helpful in kind of re engaging your community and then getting those sales coming
Speaker:in. That's so good. I'm glad you shared that
Speaker:because I just think that it's not abnormal if things are not
Speaker:always. Rolling and flowing. And so
Speaker:just want to share that for those who are listening now, I do want to
Speaker:switch the gears a little bit. Now, back in episode, I think it was 84.
Speaker:We had somebody come on talking about hormone health and cycle sinking.
Speaker:And you know, I'm, I'm starting to do my research on it a little
Speaker:bit. In episode, I think episode 86, I
Speaker:talked about, you know, how I stopped following one of my systems. And one of
Speaker:the reason I stopped was for my podcast was because I
Speaker:had tasks that were around my, the menstrual
Speaker:phase. And so I was just not doing the stuff because I didn't feel like
Speaker:it. Right. So I know you do cycle syncing. So can you talk
Speaker:about what that journey looked like for you and how it's impacted your
Speaker:business? Yes. Oh my gosh. I love cycle thing. I don't talk about this
Speaker:enough and people don't ask me about it. So this is exciting. But, uh,
Speaker:I started cycle thinking probably, uh, I know it's been probably
Speaker:at least two ish years now and I was cycle thinking a
Speaker:little bit before, but I never really applied it to like my business. Um,
Speaker:but what's been really cool is that when I. First learned about cycle seeking. It
Speaker:was probably like after I had my oldest, but my, my cycle was still very
Speaker:irregular, you know, like all the hormones stuff like that. So it was very irregular,
Speaker:but with my youngest, when my cycle came back, it was very routine and I
Speaker:was like, Hmm, maybe I have a chance at like trying this thing out. So
Speaker:I went through like, you know, what they say, like, You have the four phases
Speaker:of your cycle and all this kind of stuff. And I, I attempted
Speaker:to take all my tasks, like all the main things that I do. And I
Speaker:just dropped them into like the proper place in your cycle. So I'm sure
Speaker:that there's more details like in your other episode, but essentially like what I did
Speaker:is I just dropped those things over there and I tried it out for one
Speaker:month. And it was amazing. Like, like
Speaker:this is my ovulation week. That's why I scheduled the podcast so far out because
Speaker:this is ovulation week. And apparently on ovulation, we think you have your most energy,
Speaker:like your most magnetic, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. So I was like, okay, I'm
Speaker:just going to schedule it this far out. Like, and it was cool. But like,
Speaker:I have noticed, and I will say this, like for a fact, I have noticed
Speaker:that I've been able to be more consistent in my business
Speaker:because I follow my cycle. And that has been like the biggest
Speaker:benefit and the biggest reason why I continue to keep it and keep it. Cause
Speaker:like, I used to not really keep up with my cycle. I know like, okay,
Speaker:my period comes on these days. If it doesn't what's going on, but like, you
Speaker:know, otherwise like I really wasn't that pressed about it. But now I'm like,
Speaker:Hmm, this is giving follicular energy. And I'm just like, uh, you know,
Speaker:it depends, but I think it's really cool to follow your
Speaker:cycle for your business in particular, especially as moms. Because
Speaker:sometimes we don't realize that. We are truly
Speaker:taxed, like emotionally, we're exhausted from being a mom.
Speaker:We're exhausted from being a wife. You're exhausted. And then on top of that, you
Speaker:have the business, like you, like, sometimes we don't realize that we're so
Speaker:stretched thin and it makes us actually not as productive in our business.
Speaker:And that's what I've realized. I've realized that like, I am consistently getting
Speaker:more things actually completed and done because I'm
Speaker:following my actual cycle. And I just thought this was the hugest.
Speaker:Business and life hack. Like even in my life, I try to like drop things.
Speaker:Into my cycle, like my cycle syncing, whatever it is, but like, I try to
Speaker:drop my life into that as well because it just makes it to where,
Speaker:like, everybody gets the best of my energy, you know, like the best of my
Speaker:energy. And I get the best of my energy. Like when I'm going through, I
Speaker:think it's luteal. I start to like, kind of calm down a little bit. Like
Speaker:I kind of pull back, I wrap up my projects and it feels so good.
Speaker:Also like to my nerd brain, because there's a part of my brain that like,
Speaker:loves like the data and like look all. Look at all the numbers and all
Speaker:the things. And so I like, I will track things like my temperature. Like I'm
Speaker:like, I'm like, so OD with this. This is ridiculous. Sometimes how
Speaker:far I will go. It's just been such a, it's been a
Speaker:really cool experience, but also I have found that it has made me
Speaker:way more productive in the way I show up to my business. Like,
Speaker:it's not that I never, it's not that I haven't always liked my business, but
Speaker:you, you know, everybody knows the drill. Like sometimes you just hate. What, what season
Speaker:you're in. And I'm finding that in the last couple of years, I've had
Speaker:less of those experiences of like hating the season I'm in with my
Speaker:business. And I think that's because I'm not operating out of alignment
Speaker:with my actual self. So like, you know, if I'm not feeling good, then I'm
Speaker:sitting here trying to do a photo shoot. And then all these other high vibe
Speaker:activities, it's like, bruh, No, we need to go sit down somewhere, you know, so
Speaker:now that I've kind of realigned those things, I'm finding that I just feel way
Speaker:better. I show up better as a CEO. I show up better to my clients
Speaker:and I show up really good, like as a mom. And even now, like my
Speaker:husband, he, he, he's like, Oh, are you in a good deal phase? Like he
Speaker:can kind of like, no, like, and I'm just like, bruh, leave me alone. You
Speaker:know, but it's just really cool. Cause like, now we're all kind of on the
Speaker:same page and like. It just, it just feels, I love it. I don't know
Speaker:if I answered your question, but girl, it's a vibe. Like if you need to
Speaker:do, like, if you need, if you need permission, you need to just do it.
Speaker:Yes, no, I love hearing about when I first researched and found out about it
Speaker:I'm like, yo, this is such a huge heck and it makes sense when
Speaker:I thought back on different scenarios You know it would take
Speaker:me like a week or two to do a simple test because I was in
Speaker:like I was doing it in the Wrong phase and I knocked it out and
Speaker:like one sitting in the right face so I'm
Speaker:excited to start like really digging into it for myself, but I'm glad to
Speaker:hear about your experience as well. So as we wrap
Speaker:up, of course, let people know how they can connect with you.
Speaker:But for that mom who is like in the
Speaker:trenches, she has her little ones. She's trying to run her business right now. What
Speaker:words of encouragement would you give her? Oh, girl,
Speaker:I'm in the trenches with you, honey. Um, that's the first thing Right
Speaker:I'm right there with you, girl. But, um, but no, seriously,
Speaker:the biggest thing that I always tell myself is that, like, it's all a season.
Speaker:Like all of this is temporary. It's not permanent or, you know, the kids will
Speaker:not be little forever. You know, you will not have, you know, Limited
Speaker:time or limited sleep forever. Like even now my kids getting a little bit older.
Speaker:I mean, they're not that much older, but they're like getting older and I'm just
Speaker:noticing I have a little bit more time, you know, or they're having
Speaker:conversations with me and I actually understand like how they feel, where
Speaker:they're coming from. And so I'm adjusting based off of those things. And so.
Speaker:I just, I guess my biggest piece of encouragement is like, this is just temporary.
Speaker:It's a season and it will end and then you'll have a new set of
Speaker:challenges. But the truth is that like, you've already made it through one hurdle,
Speaker:you know, you made it through pregnancy and then you made it through, you know,
Speaker:the baby, the newborn stage. And you made it through, like, you're going to continue
Speaker:to make it through each stage. So just know that like, this is temporary. It's
Speaker:a season. And because you've already made it through something else, you can
Speaker:endure in this season and just give yourself grace. Like that's my favorite word is
Speaker:like grace, give yourself grace and a constant thing that I'm having to
Speaker:tell my clients and even myself in the season is like, if you're not feeling
Speaker:it and kind of like the cycle thing, it's like, if you're not feeling it,
Speaker:if you're in a different phase of your cycle, just give it up. Like, just,
Speaker:just relax and just chill. It's fine. If you take a day off,
Speaker:a week off, even a month off, like I took a whole year off. It's
Speaker:not going to make or break you. Like it's not going to make or break
Speaker:you. You are still going to be able to come back. And the most important
Speaker:thing is that you come back your best self. And if that means you need
Speaker:to take a step, you need to be sick for the week. You need to
Speaker:just get your mental health together for a month or two, do that. Like it's,
Speaker:it's more important for you to take care of yourself and your family, which of
Speaker:course is probably your number one priority. And then to try to force things with
Speaker:the business, because it's just going to lead to more stress and it's not necessary.
Speaker:So you're in a season, you will make it through and just give yourself some
Speaker:grace. Absolutely love it. Kay, thank you so much for
Speaker:coming on and just sharing your wisdom and your experiences
Speaker:with us. Let people know how they can connect with you. So you can find
Speaker:me on Instagram at moms do business different. And then I also have a podcast
Speaker:called moms do business different, which you are going to be a guest on soon,
Speaker:but yeah, so you can come over there, but yeah, that's it. Um, if you
Speaker:follow me on Instagram, you can find like my email list. I try to send
Speaker:out, um, this like monthly, or not monthly, but it's like a weekly, bi weekly
Speaker:series called a dear mama CEO. And those are like love letters. Kind of
Speaker:like what we talked about today, like just give me encouragement and wisdom and sharing
Speaker:what I've been through. And so if you go on Instagram, you can find that
Speaker:email list, but yeah, that's where you can hang out with me. Yes. And all
Speaker:of that will be linked in the show description, so make sure you connect.
Speaker:Kay is a vibe like she likes to say. Um, and yeah, just
Speaker:get connected with all of the things. So Kate, again, thank you so much for
Speaker:coming on. Thank you all for listening, and we'll see you in the next episode.
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