Ep 92. 3 Warning Signs of Poor Work-Life Balance for Mompreneurs

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I recently posted about how I want it to be a present mom. We hear

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about being present with our children. Yes, I want to be present,

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but I also want to be pleasant. And it's hard to be pleasant.

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when you are lacking in self care

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you are now tuned in to the mom CEO suite podcast.

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I'm your host, Felicia, wife, mom, and

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entrepreneur. In this podcast, I'll be sharing my mompreneur

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journey along with strategies that will help you build your online

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business operations in a sustainable way. The goal is

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to help you build a business that fits into your lifestyle as a mom who

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values putting family first. We will also hear the

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experiences and expertise of other moms with service

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based businesses. You'll get a peek into our journeys, so you'll

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know that you aren't alone. Motherhood gets hard.

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Entrepreneurship gets hard. But together, we can

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do hard things. Welcome to the suite.

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Hey friend, welcome to another episode. Thank you for being here.

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So today we're talking about three signs of

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poor work-life balance. Now, if you've listened to the

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podcast, Have you followed the brand? You know, I

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am more of an advocate for work-life harmony. I will

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link some past episodes in the

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show description that kind of talks about why.

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I am an advocate for work-life harmony. Over

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work-life balance. But I do understand that sometimes.

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People are searching for answers for why they

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cannot obtain work-life balance. And I

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think one of the main reasons why. Is how we're even thinking

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about this whole concept of work-life balance. And so I'll link

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some episodes in the show description. So again, you

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can understand why I advocate for work-life harmony over balance.

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So go do that if you, if you have not, but.

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Today. I want to get into three signs of poor work-life

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balance or harmony. All right. So number one

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is that you respond to normal

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situations. In an abnormal way.

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Now all of these things I have experienced myself. And so I am

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not. You know, coming on here. Pointing the finger

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at you and saying, you need to do this. You need to do that. I

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really just sharing this from. Things that I have experienced. So

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number one, when you're responding to normal situations in an abnormal

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way, Many times this shows

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up as you being irritable or having mood swings.

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And let's say. For example, it's been a day with the kids, because

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for me best what it was, it was just a day with the kids, but

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them just being themselves. Was

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highly. Triggering to me in how it's a very

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irritable. And so this was assigned to me.

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That my work-life harmony was out of whack.

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Now I am, I'm sharing these three signs of poor work-life

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balance and harmony, but I'm also going to give you, some

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solutions to this as well. So make sure you stick around. And

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listen to the entire episode. So if you're responding to normal

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situations in an abnormal way, it could be a lack of arrest. It

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could be a lack of boundaries. It could be. Um,

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misaligned priorities. it. It could be. Be overworking. It could be a

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lot of reasons why you're responding in the way that you are. But

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this is an indication. Like all of these things that I'm going to share

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today, it's like red flags, red light flashing, something is

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off and you need to really address. The deeper

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issue. Okay. Now second. Sign of poor work-life balance or

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harmony. Number two is a.

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Decline and your general health and wellbeing. Now.

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I'm not talking about. You know, chronic illness or anything like that,

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but just in your general health. If you are not. Finding

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the time to. Tend to your health.

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Or to do things like eat properly

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or not eat poorly. Whore, you

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know, If you're not drinking your water, or if you're

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over consuming. Things that are not the

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best for you like sugars and, fatty

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foods or processed foods. Um, if you are

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not taking the time to move your body.

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Again, this could all be an indication that you might be

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stressed. You might be overworked. And that something

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is just out of alignment and not.

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Right. And again, red flag. Red

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light flashing. We need to figure out what the deeper issue

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is. So in a past episode, I talked about I'll link

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it in the show description. I talked about how I

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eliminated sugar from my diet. Because.

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Well for a few reasons, but I realized that I was over

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consuming it. Because of stress and I was not

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handling my stress properly. And so the way that I was

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handling it. Was to, you know, eat sugar. Sugar is like

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a comfort food. Instead of really addressing the deeper

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issue, which was the stress. And so

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that. Cost issues with my health. Like

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nothing crazy, but. You know, I felt more

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sluggish and it caused inflammation,

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sugar causes inflammation. And so I would have

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not terrible menstrual cycles, but once I

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eliminated sugar, My cycle.

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Improved dramatically. Right. And so. If

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you are seeing a decline in your general health, we really need to

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dig deeper and understand why. Why are we not

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eating properly? Why are we not, you know, drinking our water? Are

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we too busy? You know, are we too stressed?

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Um, my therapy, some depression going on.

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What's the real reason. Okay. And then the third

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side. Is that you are constantly feeling

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overwhelmed. Now, I'm not saying you're never going to feel

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overwhelmed because as number one, a mom. And then as a

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business owner as well. There will be moments.

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And situations where you will feel overwhelmed.

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But if this is a constant thing where

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you are feeling overwhelmed and say today,

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Then this is an indication that again, something is off

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red flag for like flashing. Why am I feeling

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overwhelmed every day? Something is wrong. Something

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needs to change. I might need to, let me

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start getting into the solutions for you for you now. So, if you

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are experiencing any of the signs. How can you

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fix it? Now? I talk deeply about this

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in the harmony private podcast, which is an audio course.

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That walks you through. It guides you in how

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to create and achieve work-life harmony.

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And so it was a six module audio course. And I talk

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about these things that I'm going to mention now.

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Can I talk about them in a deeper way in the private podcasts. All right.

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So would you want to consider our first-year priorities? Have you

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identified what your priorities are? And are

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you. Adhering to the priorities that you

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said. Okay, because there's one thing to know what your

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priorities are, but are you keeping the priorities, the priority?

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So for me, I have identified that in my

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life in general and on a day-to-day basis, my priorities look like

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this. God. Self. Family

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business. So. My relationship with

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God has to be the number one priority. Right? So I have

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identified that, but if there's a day where my

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actions don't line up with that priority,

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then things are out of whack. I'm going to be a little bit more

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irritable or I might. Operate in my

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flesh more than in the spirit. Right. And so number one priority

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is guy. And number two priority is self.

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And this is number two because I need to

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be. In a good frame of mind. I need to be in a good

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state in order to be able to function as.

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A wife, a mom and a business owner. If I am.

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Not healthy. If I am not in a good frame of mind.

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That affects how the family, they are. That affects how the

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business. Operates. And so I need to take

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care of myself. Right. And so again, this looks

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like. nutritional things and physical activity

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and, whatever. Self care looks like for you.

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Do that. Because we can't pour from empty cups. And then when

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I don't. keep self care a priority. Again,

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I'm more irritable with my children. I don't respond

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to them the way. That I w

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like to all the time. I recently posted about how I

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want it to be a present mom. We hear about being present with our

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children. Yes, I want to be present, but

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I also want to be pleasant. And it's hard to be pleasant. when

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you are lacking in self care.

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Okay. So identify what your priorities are

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and, and stick to the priorities, whatever that looks like for

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you. Okay. So I just share what mine are. To give you an

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idea. And, and what that looks like. Then

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also, once you identify your priorities, you want to set your boundaries and you

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want to have boundaries for. Yourself. You want to have

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boundaries for your business. you want to have boundaries for. your

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family. Okay. And the boundaries really just give people

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guidelines for how to interact. And engage with

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you. It informs people of what you.

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will and will not accept. And so sometimes when we

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don't have boundaries in place, that's when we tend

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to overwork. That's when we say yes to more than we should say

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yes to best when we have more on our plate than we need

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to. That's when in the business they're scope creep and we're doing

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more than what the contract actually says. And so we want to. make sure

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that we have these boundaries in place. So that we can keep

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our work-life balance in our harmony intact.

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And then another thing that you want to think about is really

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understanding what your daily rhythm is and creating

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something that works for you and your family. I

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have talked about creating a rhythm in past episodes. So again,

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I'll link that in the show description. But when you're thinking

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about a daily rhythm, This is not a routine, right. A

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routine is more rigid. A routine is time-based. As a mom and

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business, you need something that's a little bit more flexible. You need

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something that follows a little bit more, something that you can fall in

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and out of, but you still have a framework so that you can get things

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done. And in the harmony private podcast, I

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walk you through how to actually create that rhythm for you and your

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family. And how you can do it in a way that's going to,

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um, alleviate and relieve yourself a frustration.

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And relieve you of that overwhelm that you are feeling.

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Um, I also talked about in a past episode.

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How I was feeling very frustrated. Through the

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day when, I would try to get work done with my

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kids home with me. And I talked about how I just

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stopped. Trying to do work through the day. And I

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shifted my work blocks to the nighttime. And

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that was really a part of creating the rhythm. That was a part of observing

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and understanding. The habits of my children and just

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knowing that okay. Uh, working at night is what works best.

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This is the rhythm that works for us. So again, if you want to dive

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deeper into these things into priorities, into

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boundaries, how to create and communicate your boundaries, how to

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create a rhythm plus three other modules, make sure you check out the

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harmony private podcast, but. Again,

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Three signs that your or your work-life balance. Or

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your work-life harmony is not intact.

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Is number one, you are responding to normal situations in an

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abnormal way. Number two, there's a decline in your

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general health and wellbeing. And then number three, you are

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constantly feeling overwhelmed. And if you are feeling any of these things,

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We need to look to the deeper reason as to

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why. And how you can kind of restore your work-life

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harmony is to start looking at your priorities,

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looking at your boundaries and looking at what your daily rhythm is. All

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right. So I would love to hear from you. What love to know.

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If you are feeling any of the signs or if you

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are just having more questions about how to achieve work life

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harmony would love to answer any of your questions. Feel free to shoot me a

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DM on Instagram and. I will see you in the next

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